A need for clarity is one of basic human needs in life. Of course we are able to operate in ambiguous environment and work with many unknowns – how else could we be successful in business? My favourite moments of ambiguity happen when I am leading workshops based on group process facilitation, or during every counselling session, sitting down in front of the client without knowing what he or she will bring today. Improvisation makes my work fascinating. However, operating within clarity is more comfortable for me. If you need it, too, this post is for you.
Recently, I finally decided to make some important moves that seem to be major turns on my life path. By the way – have you ever tried to draw or imagine your life path? Is it straight, curvy, narrow, broad, a highway or a village path, a forest path, winding, toward the sun or disappearing in mist? Try this exercise on and see where it takes you.
As for me, suddenly, after some days of running around with some anxiety and tension, I landed on a deeper sense of clarity and peace. By the way – do you know the phenomenon called “incubation phase”? Described by Graham Wallis, it is a process of unconscious recombination of thought elements that were stimulated through conscious work beforehand. To put it in another words – that your brain has been working hard to help you without you knowing that. And then, “suddenly”, you get “illuminated”.
My “illumination” feels very strange. Suddenly I am clearly able to distinguish between things that should be done and others that still might be done, but will only serve the “old way”. I just know – and this knowing is present on many levels; intellectual too, but even more on emotional and in my body. Of course I can still hesitate and negotiate with myself if I want to entertain myself with thoughts, but my sense of clarity will listen to these struggles with empathy and in the end remain the same.
If you are allergic on the word “should”, please, approach this “should” with a basic curiosity. This is “the helping should”. The rooted should. The very clearly energetic should. Your personal navigation system on a new way. Instead of “should”, you can call it “this feels right”, “I am deeply convinced it is right”, “I don’t know why, but this just sounds right”, “my intuition tells me it’s right”.
Old ways start to feel like dry branches of your tree of life that really do not need more water; they will dry out and fall off, and it is time to focus on this parts which are thriving. They might still be tiny, a seed merely, but this seed can feel closer to your soul that other more spectacular accomplishments from the past.
Do you have Courage to nurture it?
Wishing you incubation with illumination,
PS. In order to create good circumstances for incubation, do something else than thinking hard about solving your problem. I paint or hike, as you can see below. Just leave it and trust the process!